The Bhudda said that all suffering comes from desire. If you desire nothing, expect nothing then what is there to pain you?
However, for most of us, the elimination of desire is tricky. After all, even at the very basic level we desire to live!
And moving up the scale, we desire (need) water, food and shelter. But once we have the essentials, anything else is decoration.
That’s not to say you should not desire the decoration! Progress depends on desire. I guess we all want comfortable furniture, nice holidays, a car or two, maybe a luxury yacht, an executive jet – you draw your own line!
And, of course, we all want to avoid suffering.
How? The only sure way is by practicing non-attachment. Especially non-attachment to ‘things’. By all means desire a bigger house and do all you ethically can to get one. But do not become attached to your desire. Do what you need to do to realise your intention of owning a bigger house. Then what happens, happens.
As Kipling suggested, you should “meet with triumph and disaster and treat those two imposters just the same”.
Not an easy call, but one that will make an unprecedented difference in your life.
It takes practice; a lot of practice. I doubt that anyone ever achieves total non-attachment. Our natural instinct is to celebrate success and bemoan failure.
By all means celebrate success. And practice simply moving on from failure.
Learn from both, do not be attached to either.